The Fearousal Phenomenon

I cherish the deep connections I hold with my clients. One shares how I transformed his fantasies into joyous realities.

If I had a dollar for every time a lover told me he was intimidated by me at first… I’d probably have a pickle jar full of crumpled singles sitting on a bookshelf somewhere.

Apparently, there is something simultaneously fear-inducing and arousing about a woman like me. Someone who is aesthetically commanding and who isn’t a sexual wallflower, and who openly embraces her role as a blank canvas for someone’s erotic evolution.

My core clients are curious, vibrant humans with a wide range of appetites, and I genuinely love spending deep, intentional time with them.

I feel truly grateful to know them, and love hearing firsthand accounts of how they pushed through that jittery space only to be joyously rewarded on the other side.

They are put at ease by my warmth, empathy, humor, artistic flair, and steadfast belief that everyone should feel comfortable in their own skin, life and sexuality.

Here is one such tale. It comes in the form of a testimonial from a man with whom I have shared so much over the years.

Our dynamic is the epitome of kindred spiritdom, and I’ve had the immense pleasure of bringing his most deeply seeded – and previously shame inducing – fantasies to fruition.

Hi Alyx,

I was just thinking back before I met you when I found you so intimidating.

You’re so gorgeous and statuesque, and exude confidence in all your photos and writings. It took me a while to work up the nerve to request a date with you, but once I did, I was so sorry I’d hesitated.

You’re the most playful, creative, and deviously kinky person I’ve ever met. But more than that, you temper your beauty and confidence with a sweet warmth and genuine empathy. I always feel that you’re really listening to me, considering my wants and needs. 

You’ve always given me everything I wanted, while seamlessly incorporating your own creative additions to our play. Not only do you listen to me, but you also seem to intuitively know what I need, including things I didn’t even know I needed myself.

I love the thrill of never knowing what you’ll do next, while simultaneously enjoying the trust and feeling of security that it will be fun, pleasurable, and within my boundaries.

In particular, I so appreciate the way you responded when I shared one of my most personal, kinky fantasies with you.

Not only did you not laugh or judge me for it, but you enthusiastically embraced it and made it come true in spectacular fashion. It was better than I had ever imagined due in large part to your own brilliant contributions that fit the scene so well.

It’s such a powerful experience to have someone so whole-heartedly embrace your sexuality in such a sincere and judgment-free way.

You’ve done something I thought was impossible: you made me feel sexy and worthy of touch and intimacy, and in doing so, you restored so much of my confidence and sense of self that l’d lost through years without physical intimacy.

Everyone should be so lucky as to have someone as wild and empowering as you in their lives.

With deep affection,
[name redacted]

Til next time,

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